Resolve Family Conflicts

Table of contents:

Resolve Family Conflicts
Resolve Family Conflicts

Video: Resolve Family Conflicts

Отличия серверных жестких дисков от десктопных
Video: The Simpsons - Homer's way to resolve family conflicts 2023, January

Resolve family conflicts

The basis of any conflict resolution is good communication. One way to create a constructive culture of conflict is to talk about family communication behavior together. For example, to “unmask” situations in which similar disputes occur again and again, and to consider how these could be better managed in the future.

It often also helps if an incident (e.g. outburst of anger from one parent) is discussed and the person's behavior is explained to the other or the child (e.g. to worry).


  • Continue reading
  • more on the subject
  • Advice, downloads & tools
  • Come on a green branch
  • Making decisions together as a family
  • Where can I find help?

Come on a green branch

Parents do not always agree - both in terms of their relationship as a couple (e.g. sharing time, housekeeping) and in raising children. This not infrequently leads to conflicts, because everyone brings their own experiences and learned communication patterns with them. In order to come to an agreement and to find a good, common way to resolve conflicts, it is important to heed a few other tips in addition to communication (under Communication in the family):

  • Accusations are mostly counterproductive and lead to resistance from the "accused".
  • Talking about your feelings helps you be better understood.
  • Generalizations are not specific enough to contribute to a solution.
  • Describe the perception of the other: How do you perceive your partner, for example (e.g. regarding your behavior). Often there is a difference between the perception of oneself and others.
  • Stay on point: Don't go from the hundredth to the thousandth - according to the motto: "While we're at it, I can let all my frustration off the ground."

Making decisions together as a family

It is helpful to really tackle disagreements in the family as a unit and not in small groups (e.g. mother / daughter). An essential element of a balanced family life is sharing responsibilities. From a certain age, children can also help with the household (e.g. tidy up their room themselves) or siblings can support each other (e.g. older people take care of younger ones). It is of course important to pay attention to the maturity of the offspring.

A “family meeting” can be arranged, for example, in order to jointly consider the division of work and to discuss other family issues. Parents and children always come together consciously at regular intervals and address problems or new processes to be planned. A “family gathering” is also subject to certain rules that are determined in advance (e.g. mutual respect, do not talk at once). This cannot avoid conflicts, but these can be discussed in the entire group and there is no "build-up" of frustration or misunderstandings. In addition, you spend time together and can close the meeting with a nice activity (e.g. an excursion) or a game (e.g. board game).

Where can I find help?

Sometimes conflicts have been made in such a way that it is necessary to accept outside help. Possible offers of help include:

  • Family counseling centers: Online at
  • Advice in separation situations: Information on the contact points for questions about separation and divorce as well as general conditions (costs, etc. as well as possible legal support measures (family court assistance, family, parent or upbringing advice according to § 107, child support, visit support) can be found on the website www.

You can find more information about advice & help for the family under Family: Advice & Help. Family therapy, for example, can also be helpful.

Popular by topic