Choice Of Partner - Influences And Factors

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Choice Of Partner - Influences And Factors
Choice Of Partner - Influences And Factors

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Video: Choice Of Partner - Influences And Factors
Video: INVISIBLE INFLUENCE: The Hidden Forces that Shape Behavior by Jonah Berger 2023, September

The choice of partner

In theory, it is possible to get to know your partner for life anywhere by chance. Finding a partner, however, often depends on the economic, social and cultural situation. Who you are attracted to and with whom you develop and maintain an emotional connection over time - who you ultimately choose is influenced by many different factors. In addition to social and economic circumstances as well as attitudes and values, experiences and experiences from childhood, for example, and much more influence…


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Similarity, Opportunity & Values

The influencing factors include, for example:

  • Similar & Opposites. Many get to know partners who are of a similar age, belong to a similar social class or the same social class or the same cultural group and have a similar education. Similarities in attitudes can prove to be beneficial, especially when getting to know each other - and can help a couple to become more stable later on. However: Differences also have their charm. Partners with contrary traits and characters can therefore also have an attraction to one another.
  • Opportunities & timing. Who you get to know depends not least on what social environment you are in, where you are and what opportunities you take to get to know someone. Today the possibilities have increased, for example by getting to know each other via the Internet or by studying abroad.
  • Attractiveness, values & attitudes. Whether you find someone physically attractive or not plays a significant role, at least when it comes to getting to know each other and the question of seeing you again. Correspondence in values and expectations, as well as whether the "inner values" are positive, is usually compared by the couples over time. What is also important is the importance given to certain properties or characteristics such as intelligence, moral integrity, the ability to bond, reliability, mutual attraction, pleasant nature, age or physical attractiveness, etc. In addition, it is not insignificant that ideas of a couple relationship also develop together. For example, if one of the two is in a long-term relationship with children and the other is not, the relationship may be jeopardized.

Behaviors & role models

The following are also essential:

  • Gender roles. What is learned in childhood, such as attachment patterns, traditional gender roles or certain behaviors, play a role in partner choice.
  • Role models & comparisons. The couple relationship of parents, relatives, friends and acquaintances often serves as an orientation for one's own partnership. In addition, the couple relationships they experience themselves influence the future ones and offer a comparative value. The role model in the partnership is also shaped by the media (film, magazines, etc.).